Tag: Relaxation guide

You need to chill out – and here are 3 pro tips to get you there

Man doing yoga on a hill overlooking a town

As we enter the third year of the pandemic, it can be harder to find a moment for ourselves to practice mindfulness and navigate through what can be a challenging time for many.  We sat down with clinical psychologist and mindfulness expert, Emily Toner, to share her 3-step guide to quietening internal chatter.  Step 1 – Recognising a wandering mind  The first step to quieting internal chatter is actually just becoming aware of it in the first place. Research suggests that for up to half of our day, we’re not truly paying attention to our external surroundings, or listening to what’s going on internally (Killingsworth et al, 2008). That’s half our life we’re missing out on!  Becoming aware of this habit requires self-reflection. For me, if I’m feeling average but don’t really know the cause, I have to pause and ask myself, ‘what was I just thinking?’.  Oftentimes, when we feel discomfort it can be due to a judgemental thought we’ve recently inflicted on ourselves, or because we’ve been caught up in worry or rumination.  Step 2 – Being present in the moment  The second step in quietening internal chatter involves analysing the constructiveness of thoughts. After taking the time to pause and become mindful of our thoughts, we then have to ask ourselves, ‘are these thoughts helpful?’, ‘are they assisting me in having the day, or life that I want?’.  If our thoughts are inhibiting us from feeling our best, we have to unhook from them and return to the present moment. Grounding, meditative… Read More

How to truly stress-bust by taking relaxing seriously


You likely know how to work. You know how to keep up with your duties, how to pay your bills, how to communicate with your partner, how to discipline your children in a healthy and fair manner to set boundaries, how to pay your taxes, how much is left in your mortgage balance, how to defend your property, how to maintain your vehicle for the most part, and how to apologize when you’re in the wrong. But do you know how to relax? You might shrug this off and not think this needs any practice at all – but it really does. Stress is one of the biggest contributors to mental illness and is the cause of many cardiovascular problems each year. We all know how to work. But do we know how to sit down and relax, letting the stress leave us in a much-needed manner? Or are we all just pretending to relax during our free time, despite never giving ourselves the freedom to do so? You might say that learning to relax should be a solemn duty of yours. It can often help you take a load off and become the best version of yourself. With the following advice, we’ll help you get there. Find Some Time This can be the hardest but the most necessary point. You likely have a habit of filling your free time with productivity. That’s hardly the worst habit to have. But if you’re always moving at pace, how can you hope to relax? It might be… Read More